I thought everyone did this in bed. But when I told my friends my go-to sex move... they said I was vile: DEAR JANE

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Dear Jane,

My friends are absolutely disgusted by me.

We were out at drinks one night and, of course, were talking about our dating lives.

Admittedly, I'm the most successful single of the group, in that I go on a lot of dates - so they asked me what my 'secret' to hooking all these guys is.

My answer? Morning sex.

I boasted that it keeps men coming back for more and, in my experience at least, they love the idea that you're willing to do it because some women won't.

It turns out my friends are among them.

You should've seen the looks on their faces... in fact, they told me it was vile!

'I feel so gross in the morning,' one lamented, while another quipped, 'Think of the morning breath!'

I was so embarrassed - who knew what I thought was such an innocent 'trick' would be so controversial?

I had never considered that having sex first thing in the morning would be revolting and now I can't get it out of my head.

Is it really that disgusting? And how will I ever face my friends again after this?

Sincerely,

Wake Up Call

International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on readers' most burning issues in her agony aunt column

Dear Wake Up Call,

I want to start by saying that just because your friends don’t like the idea of morning sex, doesn’t immediately equate to them being disgusted by you.

Sex, in all its forms, is uniquely personal and really not for anyone else to judge.

So many of us are taught, very young, to carry shame around sex and our sexual preferences, but as long as it’s legal and consensual, there is nothing wrong with sexual proclivities, or kink. 

Shame is always corrosive. It will shut us down. Conversely, bringing that shame to the light, will always dissolve it.

Let’s be honest here - we’re talking about morning sex, not some strange BDSM kink. 

Years ago I met a woman who gave me two great tips to save a marriage: the first was the bang wash - when you haven’t got time to wash your hair, wash your bangs and stick the rest in a ponytail - and the second was morning sex, particularly on a Saturday. 

As most married women know, the last thing you ever want to do on a Saturday night when you get home is have sex; usually you want to crawl into bed with a book, or a phone and go straight to sleep. Having sex on a Saturday morning, she swore, was the best hack she knew.

So, morning sex isn’t gross and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. As you have discovered, most men don’t care in the slightest about morning breath or not being freshly-showered. Well done you for discovering a secret sauce that works for you.

Lastly, our friends judging us will only hit if we allow it to. It really doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you, what matters is that you follow your own moral code and being true to yourself.

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